how do i motivate my gf to reduce weight?

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my gf’s put on a few (more than few actually) extra pounds, how do i motivate her to reduce weight without offending her?

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38 Responses to “how do i motivate my gf to reduce weight?”

  1. Cali_Flwr on August 10th, 2009 at 9:05 am

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    You can’t!
    A woman’s weight is a very touch subject.

  2. Amanda P on August 11th, 2009 at 7:24 am

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    why dont you tell her that yall should diet and exersize together and help her without telling her she is fat

  3. saraaaa. on August 13th, 2009 at 12:21 pm

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    maybe you could ask her to go for jogs or go to the gym with you. so that you’re both doing it together that she won’t be noticing that you want her to lose weight. don’t be all upfront about it because girls are sensitive and we take everything to heart.

  4. Jenny C on August 15th, 2009 at 3:25 pm

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    Tell her in order to be healthly she should lose weight and you are worried for her health

  5. simply_me on August 16th, 2009 at 12:03 am

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    Start going to the gym together or raquetball or something. Tell her you want to try something new together.

  6. solo on August 16th, 2009 at 8:38 am

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    Ask her if she wants to join a gym with you. She can’t expect you to stay attracted to her if she becomes too obese. It’s not how you entered the relationship. Tell her you love her, but you’re losing interest in her body.

    Sorry… there isn’t a nice way to do this. You just have to tell it like it is. Think about it.

    PS. I’m probably going to get ‘thumbs down’ from all the fat people that expect their mates to stay with them after they gain over 100 lbs. Wake up people. This is the real world and I’m just being honest. He called her his girlfriend, not his wife.

  7. dhdaddy2003 on August 18th, 2009 at 11:57 pm

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    by example and praise for when she make any progress or makes good choices

  8. greatmom2 on August 19th, 2009 at 10:06 am

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    you can’t make her do anything and if I were your gf and I knew you were on here talking about my weight you would be history. Does she even want to loose weight?

  9. john c on August 21st, 2009 at 7:04 pm

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    Tricky but if you started to chat to fitter women then she’d feel compelled to compete. She either sounds too secure with you or is depressed? Be careful though as attention can backfire!

  10. JiNxEd on August 23rd, 2009 at 4:40 am

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    If she wanted to lose weight she would… she doesn’t need you breathing down her neck. You’re her man, you should love her no matter what she looks like.

  11. Catherine Earnshaw on August 24th, 2009 at 8:16 am

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    If she’s unhealthy then her doctor will tell her. If you’re shallow, then shut up and get over it.

  12. slynswope on August 25th, 2009 at 3:11 am

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    i dont think there is a way for you to ask her to lose the weight without offending her. I would suggest asking her to workout with you so that you can get in shape or maybe just go for evening walks

  13. turninaduece on August 28th, 2009 at 5:54 am

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    Touchy situation. Why dont you recommend BOTH of you joining a gym and going together. Come across as it is for you as well but something you can do together. Also, maybe you do some cooking as well and make healthier foods. When you go out to eat, tell her you dont want fast food or something like that.

  14. hi everyone! on August 29th, 2009 at 1:32 am

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    help her and support her suggest doing it together, eg, join the gym or eat healthily

  15. Wooderson on August 30th, 2009 at 6:42 am

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    Just lead by example, and invite her along. Phrase it as “something the two of you can do together” – girls are always looking for that kind of thing.

  16. ANNONYMUS on September 2nd, 2009 at 6:36 am

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    I think she should dump you. You sound high maintenance.

  17. SDjenna on September 3rd, 2009 at 6:17 pm

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    Maybe get her to join a sports team with you… like recreational soccer, or join a jym and ask her to come along when you go. Also, tell her YOU want to eat healthier, then she’ll be forced to eat healthier when she’s with you and also be more active with you.

  18. m d on September 5th, 2009 at 8:21 pm

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    YOU go to the gym, YOU join weight watchers, YOU encourage her to do it “with” YOU.

    She thinks you care about your health, and need her help to get in better shape “for her” and in the process you get her in better shape too.

    That’s the best way, otherwise YOU turn into a jerk who doesn’t understand her feelings.

  19. Sass! on September 6th, 2009 at 6:57 am

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    There’s nothing you can say towards her that she wont take offense to. And, you’re a little bit… shallow. Regardless, I can help – but its going to involve getting off your butt, too.

    Tell her that you want to start exercising more and see if she would be interested in being a motivational work-out buddy.

    That way you both get exercise, and there’s no pointing fingers, which is rude – especially when it’s your girlfriend.

  20. Ayo A on September 6th, 2009 at 9:21 am

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    it’s a touchy subject but u are probably the only one who can. I think u could start walking by yourself on a consistent basis at first, then u can get to invite her to come along some day. when she does, u need to walk really slow and talk/joke most of the time so she’ll want to do it again.

  21. B.Kevorkian on September 9th, 2009 at 2:16 pm

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    You don’t. But, when she does decide to, you can be supportive of her, and that’ll make it easier.

    Good rule of thumb: you should always notice when she loses weight, and complement her on it, and you should never notice when she gains.

  22. jlcjills on September 10th, 2009 at 2:34 pm

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    You don’t say a word. Trust me anything said, no matter how well meaning you are is going to blow up in your face, and she will not lose a pound.

    No one losses weight when they are not feeling good about themselves. Low self esteem is not going to make her lose weight. But a positive attitude about herself and your relationship will cause her to want to be the best she can be.

  23. yamking7 on September 12th, 2009 at 11:37 pm

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    This is a VERY tricky area.
    My advice is to DON’T SAY ANYTHING.
    What’s your motivation for saying this to her?
    You could tell her that you care for her and want her to live a long life so she needs to lose a few, but my advice is to let it go buddy.
    She’s your girlfriend, not your wife. Keep exercising yourself and be a good example to her.
    Love her as she is. If she says, “Gee, I’m think I’m gaining weight , what do you think?” Your response should be:
    “Well, maybe you are a little, but you are still beautiful and I love you.”

  24. JP W on September 13th, 2009 at 4:34 pm

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    You don’t.
    If she doesn’t want to work hard to lose the weight, anything you say or do will just give her the excuse to do depression/comfort eating.

  25. allisonbps on September 15th, 2009 at 5:15 am

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    casually ask her to take walks with you, go hiking or start running with you, get her motivated and active but be involved! play tennis or go swimming, etc. don’t make it seem like you are trying to get her to loose weight, make it seem like you just want to be active with her and get out and do things together! cook her healthy meals or take her out to resturants that serve healthy food rather than eating a lot of junk. i know i would be more likely to loose weight if my husband approached it like this rather than just telling me i’m fat and i need to shed pounds.

  26. ileea1 on September 18th, 2009 at 1:59 pm

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    How about asking her to take a walk with you? You both could start a new routine and get healthier. Start a hobby that is active, that you can do together.

  27. Mafia God on September 19th, 2009 at 10:10 am

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    that is a hard one man a girl and weight just get things heated. You should sit her down and tell her your worried about her health and how she should lsoe some wait and that if she does you will buy her something. Good luck dude.

  28. arely on September 19th, 2009 at 5:38 pm

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    dude there is no way u can tell her about her weight and not help her getting pissed off at u .. that is very touching to women

  29. lois d on September 21st, 2009 at 7:24 pm

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    take walks together find a shooting range pick up casings for the added help even sale as scrap find walk paths mountains fresh air that all is good for weight lose the get dieters green tea chines store or health foods have her to sweat en with honey run up stairs.

  30. Raysalittlehell on September 23rd, 2009 at 4:44 am

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    Whithold sex……… hahahahahahahah (Sorry just kiddin)

    I would buy her some clothes or sexy underware that is slightly too small for her, say you didn’t keep the receipt.
    Must be something she really likes though.

    However, Love is love my man. My wife has put the beef on, but I still see the skinny chick I married when i look at her.
    She only needs to drop the pounds if it bothers HER or if its a health thing. Love her for who she is.

  31. david d on September 25th, 2009 at 10:19 am

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    You can’t. I’ve been married almost 50 years, and I have always gotten in hot water even suggesting she might lose some.

  32. dlich007 on September 28th, 2009 at 7:09 pm

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    I CANNOT ANSWER THIS QUESTION!!!!

    My ex broke up with my because i tried my own way to motivate her and she didn’t like it. If a female gives you a sincere answer go with that!!!!! They know best!!!

  33. tiger325 on September 28th, 2009 at 11:05 pm

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    be careful with this one .however make her think she is helping you , ask her if she will workout with you or walk. try to watch your eating habits as well and before no time she will too . this site might give you some useful tips.

  34. Meghan B on October 2nd, 2009 at 3:05 pm

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    Do it be having a discussion with her. Tell her you really want to improve your health, and want to start a diet and exercise program. You need her support and think you should start working out together. Put together a viable work out plan, and start making healthy eating choices together.

    You may have put on a few pounds too, and this will help you both get healthier, only increasing energy (which can definitely benefit the relationship) and have life long lasting changes to improve yourself.

  35. wife2denizmoi on October 2nd, 2009 at 11:12 pm

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    You really can’t do much without offending her. How about telling her you want to plan a nice vacation for the two of you next summer and you want to get in shape with her so you two will be able to have a great time….then you will have to keep up with the plan, like dieting, walking, etc. Just do it nicely and make sure something good is waiting at the end. It could be medication, a medical problem, stress or whatever that is causing the weight gain.

  36. Tomdelong S on October 3rd, 2009 at 8:57 pm

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    either help her out by doing it urself along with her
    or bribe her ;)

    good luck

  37. Angel_Blue on October 5th, 2009 at 5:54 pm

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    you can’t. the more times you suggest she do, the more she will eat cause you make her uncomfortable. People often turn to food because “it doesn’t judge them”……. not to mention there’s a whole slew of reasons women don’t lose weight the way men do. Go on walks together… that will start the ball rolling.

  38. vanessa on October 8th, 2009 at 10:07 am

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    I would suggest that you start eating only healthy foods, participating in regular exercise, etc. When she sees you on a health kick, hopefully it will jumpstart her own weight loss.

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